Sunday, May 23, 2010

Four “P’s”…

My weekends are usually boring…in a good kind of way. 

Pink

My friend Kathy Beaumont often does a “pink” page on her blog.  I’m not much of a “pink” person, so I decided that “pink” is the color of Bessie’s tongue hanging out in the 93 degree Houston “springtime”.

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“So…got any treats?”

How hard is it to get three Border Collies to pose for a picture?  You be the judge….

 

Patio

I love hanging out on my patio.  It’s one of my great “simple pleasures”.  It needs repair; it’s falling apart; I don’t much care, it’s comfortable.

The entire 30 years they lived in Malvern (the last time), Dad always had red geraniums in the two urns in front of their door.  As they were walking out to get in the car to leave forever, he grabbed the last one.  Last year, he gave it to me.

This is today:

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The mother-in-law tongues (a.k.a. Sansevieria) have a history as well.  The variegated one was Mother’s.  I don’t know how long she had it, but she gave me some of it when I lived in Houston the first time (1979).  The solid green was given to Mother by an elderly relative, who had gotten it when she was a housewife in the teens or twenties, to go on the front porch of their new bungalow in Dallas.  She bought a pot for it at the dime store and potted it.  She was 90 when she gave it to Mother.  Mother repotted, gave away, repotted again, split, gave me some, gave my sister some, gave all her relatives some.  When they moved, the pot remained on the back porch in Malvern from August to February, when Nathan and I went to get the rest of their stuff.  It looked dead.  I cut the tops off and replanted the live bits.  So, this is like, “great grandchild” of the original plant, but I know for a fact that the lady who gave it to Mother did so in 1970; she was 90 then; the pot was purchased during the teens or 20’s sometime.  So arguably the green one (with a little help) is 80-90 years old, give or take.  I must be doing something right; they’re both blooming.

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Push

Two Saturdays ago, I said goodbye to an old friend.  I bought the first Craftsman mower at the Sears store in Hot Springs.  Mowed my and Dad’s yard for years with it.  Like me (and like many things at my house), it became old, decrepit, and worn, with frequent breakdowns.  Two weeks ago, my neighbors had a garage sale.  I rolled the old lawn mower over there and said, “If someone will haul it off, I’ll be happy.”  They got $25 for it!

So, off I went to Sears (Bank of America threw a fit because I used my debit card; it’s a relatively small purchase; I got a great deal on a big sale.  I hate Bank of America, but they’re all just as bad…).  Say hello to my new friend!  I took the pic because it will never look this good again (and it doesn’t now, it’s dirty ;-).  So Saturday, I got up at 6:00 and fired it up; it did a beautiful job (with a little help from me).

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Pork:

Two items.  One, H-E-B had pork loin the other day for the amazing price of $2.00 a pound, so I bought two and froze one.  I’m using this easy Crockpot recipe from Allrecipes.com, and the smell is unbelievable! 

Not having it tonight, because I have a steak left over from the other night (I really love H-E-B, they always have terrific prices on their “meat special”; the T-bones were cheaper than the hamburger).  My friend Debra gave me her East Arkansas Delta Grannies' recipe for Kale.  I’d never cooked Kale before but was intrigued, and the price is sure right ($0.99 a bunch), so I tried it and it’s great.  So tonight I’m having Steak and Kale (and yes, I miss the late, great Steak and Ale). 

Kale

  • Cut stems from Kale (it folds; use sharp knife and it’s fast and easy).  Cut to bite-sized pieces.
  • Place in large pot, cover Kale with water
  • Two tablespoons black pepper into the water
  • 2-4 slices of bacon (or fatback if you have it)
  • Boil for 30 minutes
  • Drain, plate, garnish, salt, pepper, eat.

Garnish

  • Chop one medium yellow onion
  • Place in small bowl, cover with white vinegar
  • Set aside and let those two work while the Kale is cooking

Drizzle the Onion/Vinegar mix over the Kale.

There’s another aspect to the “Pork” bit:  SEC Sports has all of last season’s Razorbacks games on their website.  I’ve got the Auburn game queued up and ready to go.

So that’s my boring (but pleasant) weekend.

Have a good week everybody!

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Since I’m out of ideas right now, I’ll just steal one….

My friend Joyce over at From This Side of the Pond frequently puts up a “Random Dozen”.  This is another blog she follows; some of the questions on some of the pages are decidedly female, so usually I just read.  Some, though, are universal.

So, a random dozen:

1.What was the last thing about which you procrastinated?

This blog has space limitations….

2. How long does it take you to fall asleep, and do you sleep through the night?

True tragedy:  I generally fall asleep in front of the TeeVee, wake up somewhere around midnight (the dogs always know when it’s time to go to bed, as the TeeVee makes a decided “click” when I turn it off.  Aside for those under 40:  In the old days, when you did this, you woke up to a “test pattern”, which is what showed on the TeeVee station after it went off the air for the night.  When was the last time a station went off the air at night?

Me falling asleep in front of the TeeVee used to drive my Mother bonkers.  “GET UP AND GO TO BED,” she’d shout, using her “I’m your Mother and I mean what I’m saying” voice.  This was only a few years ago…Me middle-aged and her in her 80’s…

One more thing on sleep:  Thank God for CPAP.

3. Which decade would you choose to exemplify your favorite fashion styles?

Hmmm.  I’ve worn the same basic outfits my entire life (excluding my dreadful early 70’s brightly-coloured polyester phase.  I actually owned a pair of platform stacks; they were wing-tips---navy blue patent leather lower, cream patent leather uppers.  And they were my FAVOURITES and I wore them OFTEN.  In PUBLIC).  Khakis, loafers, polo shirts, button-down oxfords, navy blazers (gold buttons, no crest, that’s ridiculous, but can be single-or-double-breasted), shorts, sandals, Hawaiian shirts, bowling shirts, jeans, tennis shoes, ball caps.  Not sure there’s a decade to associate there.

4. What is your personal best dish to feed a crowd?

Spinach dip, steaks, mashed cauliflower (it’s better than potatoes), dessert by House of Pies.

5. Are you an impulse shopper? What was the last thing you bought on impulse?

I have to stay away from DSW Shoe Warehouse.  Can’t go in there and come out empty-handed.  Call me Imelda.

6. What is one wish you have for your own funeral?

I don’t want one.  I used to want a big one with all the trimmings, then I pared it down.  Now, I want to be cremated, with half my ashes scattered over my parents’ graves in Malvern, the other half over the Gulf of Mexico. I’d then like my friends (if I have any left by then) to have a party; wine, women, and song, and tell funny stories about me, remembering me fondly.  That would be best of all.

7. If it's true that joy is in found in the simple things in life, what does your joy look like today?

Community Coffee, Dark Roast, fresh ground from whole bean, with heavy whipping cream.  Best way to start the day.

8. What is your favorite type of bread?
Since I’m a low-carb person, I’m not supposed to have it.  I love pumpernickel (really, i do).

9. What trait do you fear developing the most? (Laziness, greediness, grumpiness, etc.)

I’ve already developed them….

10. What trait would you like most to develop?

Self-discipline (same answer Joyce gave).

11. Which room in your house best reflects your personality? Why?

It’s my house.  They all do.  And they’re all messy.

12. How do you maintain balance in your life regarding, work, family, church, other organizations and activities, and blogging?

I’m not doing very well…..

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Happy Mother’s Day

I really miss Mom.

By hook and crook, Mom wound up with an heirloom rose bush.  It’s a fairly old-fashioned double tea rose, but Mother loved it and wound up with it.

It stayed in the back yard (where she could enjoy it), between her shop and the back door, for about 20 years.  When we moved them to San Antonio, they didn’t take the planted things, like “Grandma’s Rose”. 

Nathan and I went back to Malvern when the house sold to “clean up” and get any remaining items, and I saw that rose bush.  I knew the house had sold, but…I went and borrowed a shovel from the neighbors, dug it up, and brought it to Houston. 

The first year, it almost didn’t survive.  The second (last year), it made a few small but pretty blooms, and the foliage looked better.

Mother died in January.  Now, intellectually, I know that it was the particular combination of harsh winter + sudden spring that bump-started it---but I like to think Mother was saying "Hello” to me this year, through “Grammie’s Rose”.

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Happy Mother’s Day, Mom.

Sunday, May 2, 2010

Change, and Assurance

Had a nice long conversation yesterday with my friend Robert.  Robert and I have been friends practically our whole lives, and we talk frequently about practically everything.  Yesterday, we covered various items—our digestion (we’re middle aged now…), our weight (same deal), upcoming television programs, the Gulf Oil Spill (and some of the ramifications), and such.  We almost always wind up asking, “How on earth did we get here?”

My grandfather, Jester Jones, moved to town (Malvern) when he was in his early 20’s, and started to work at the Bank of Malvern as an Assistant Teller.  He wound up being de-facto President (the titular President was a Board Member) from 1955 till he retired in 1971.  He worked at that bank for 50 years. 

My Dad joined the US Army Air Corps in WWII.  After the War, he was in the USAF, then worked a couple of other jobs before going to work for the Department of Defense.  He retired from DOD in 1982, putting in over 30 years.

Mother worked for Southwestern Bell Telephone Company for 16 years before deciding to stay home with the kids.  Aunt Joy and Aunt Joydean put in over 30 years apiece with SWBTC.

Robert’s dad, Ed, graduated from TCU and went to work for National Cash Register.  He retired from NCR around 1982 or 1983, after well over 30 years.

Robert’s mom, Betty, stayed at home while her kids were little.  While they lived in Houston, she went back to school, got her degree, and began her teaching career.  She worked for HISD, then in Baton Rouge; then, when her husband’s career took them to San Antonio, she taught 5th grade for Northeast Independent School District for 30 years; retired, and is still substitute teaching at 82.  You go, Miss Betty, I hope you’re still teaching young minds when you cross the century mark.

Aunt Shorty worked for the Department of Defense for over 30 years.  Uncle Cal flew for the USAF for 25 years, then taught at the University of Arkansas for 20 years.  Pop Fink was an MD for the VA from the end of WWII until the early 80’s.

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When Robert and I got out of school, the times, they were a changin’ (thanks, Bob Dylan).  Suddenly, you weren’t “job hopping” if you changed jobs often; in fact, you were kind of a dolt if you didn’t.  Liberty Mutual was paying me $12,500 a year with a company car; Alexander and Alexander offered $20,000 plus a car plus air travel and a dee-luxe cubicle in the sky (21st floor, Diamond Shamrock Tower, with a west view, Dallas).  I mean, look at the size of that increase!  Yeah, I took it.

Over the years, I’ve worked for various insurance organizations.  For those who don’t understand anything about it, your hometown insurance agent is one small piece of the grand insurance puzzle.  Other than 2 years, I’ve never handled personal lines (and hope I never do).  This means:  no, I can’t get you a better deal on your car insurance (I buy it just like you do, and know just about as much about it).  No, I don’t sell life insurance.  I don’t sell anything.  I handle commercial insurance claims, specifically products liability, general liability, commercial auto, and my specialty, Workers’ Compensation.  I have dealt with treaty reinsurance, Lloyd’s, multilayered excess and surplus lines, and workers compensation in 40 states.  I’ve worked for major insurance carriers, brokerages, self-insureds, and Third Party Administrators.  I’ve been part owner of a TPA, as Vice-President.  Each one of my career moves (save one) has been for what I consider to be a good reason; more money, better job, desired location.  I say “save one”, because the billion-dollar company for which I worked, the large self-insured, laid me off in December, 2008.  That’s the only time in my life I’ve ever been involuntarily separated from a company; the rest have been at my own behest.

Rob, too, has worked for all kinds of companies.  He started in sales, then made a mid-career switch to real estate appraisal.  He, too, made each one of his moves for “a good reason”, whatever the case may be.  One of his big things has been to stay in Texas (I’ve moved all over); he’s a good son to his parents.

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Why all this verbiage about dull-as-dishwater business resumes?

This last Thursday, the employer which moved me to Houston, the one that laid me off in December, 2008, filed for bankruptcy.  Their stock was trading at $0.58 a share, too low to be traded on NASDAQ.  It was over $15 a share when I joined the company in 2007.  The Great Recession got them.  I haven’t talked to anyone over there, but I’m sure this means heavy-duty reorganization, probably with some layoffs or spinoffs.  I know many people lost a fortune (literally) on the stock.

As Robert and I discussed this yesterday, it dawned on me:  of all the employers for whom I’ve worked over the last 31 years, TWO (2) out of the TEN (10) are still in business under their original names (at least the name they had when I worked there), doing business as and owned by the same organizations.  The rest?  Defunct.  Subsumed into another organization.  Spun off.  Bought, sold, name changed, bankrupted, morphed, combined, uncombined and split, recombined, spun off.  Several were victims of the Great Recession.

My friend W (not sure she’d want this on my blog, she’s very private and I respect that), started in the same office one year before I did, 31 years ago (our first jobs out of college).  She worked for that company her entire career.  Didn’t matter.  They closed their Houston office (it opened in 1912) and shifted everything to Dallas.  They offered her a new job (demotion, same pay) in Dallas with no relocation package.  She has lived here 31 years, her husband has about 5 to go for full retirement, their house is paid off, her adult daughter also lives here.  What do you think she did?

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All this change has been, to say the least, unsettling.  Finances shot. Retirement?  HA!  I’m incredibly lucky I found a job where I could eat and stay in my house (even if I have to drive 20 miles each way on the Katy Freeway to get to it).  An added bonus is that I actually like the company and the people with whom I work.

Even as late as 2007 (just 3 years ago), who on earth would have thought GENERAL MOTORS would go bankrupt?  I mean, yes, they were in trouble, but somehow I thought they’d pull some kind of rabbit out of their hat.  Who could have foreseen 9/11?  Well, in an abstract way, of course---we all knew it could have happened, and may happen again at any time, but like our own deaths, it’s “out there” somewhere in the future.  Same with Hurricane Katrina---it’s the Gulf.  Hurricanes happen.  New Orleans is below sea level.  There was a huge levee system holding back Lake Pontchartrain.  Think about it.  I lived through Hurricane Ike (with very little personal trauma).  The fact that we had a major hurricane 2 years ago does not preclude us from having another one this year.  It happens.

Now we have this huge oil spill in the Gulf, which has the possibility of being the worst man-made ecological disaster in history.  (It’s fascinating, from a Risk Management standpoint---Enterprise Risk Management---what did the BP Risk Manager do to prepare his/her organization for this?  What insurance coverages did they have?  What are the contracts between them and Transocean?  What did the RM do to prepare the organization from potentially fatal litigation?  This one will go down in insurance lore like Bhopal and the Union Carbide asbestosis claims).  I claim to be a semi-environmentalist, but then, you’ll get my 21 mpg van when you can pry the keys from my cold, dead fingers.

Then, of course, there is the Great Recession.  In hindsight, it was easy to see that it was coming.  At the time, not so much.

How on earth would you have predicted all this stuff?  If you did, why didn’t you tell the rest of us???  And, would we have listened if you did?

I’ve had a pretty crappy last few years (with a couple of years of lovely exception).  Everybody I know has had a crappy last two years, without exception.

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As I write this, I’m sitting on my patio.  It’s early morning Sunday morning.  I’ve got a cup of steaming coffee on the table beside me.  My dogs are lounging in their most lazy fashion.  The doves are calling back and forth (this is south Texas), and a mockingbird is singing in a nearby tree.  There’s a little light breeze off the Gulf.  I’ve got some hibiscus and bougainvillea to pot this morning (to replace those which were destroyed this last harsh winter), and a new hosta to replace the one that finally died in my Grandmother’s old wash pot (it was the same age as me, and I managed to kill it).  It’s going to be hot and muggy in Houston today (news flash). 

The sun came up.  Life goes on.  What’s next?

 

It Is Well With My Soul

When peace like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say,
It is well, it is well, with my soul.


It is well, with my soul,
It is well, with my soul,
It is well, it is well, with my soul.

Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
Let this blest assurance control,
That Christ has regarded my helpless estate,
And hath shed His own blood for my soul.

My sin, oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!
My sin, not in part but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!

For me, be it Christ, be it Christ hence to live:
If Jordan above me shall roll,
No pang shall be mine, for in death as in life,
Thou wilt whisper Thy peace to my soul.

But Lord, 'tis for Thee, for Thy coming we wait,
The sky, not the grave, is our goal;
Oh, trump of the angel! Oh, voice of the Lord!
Blessed hope, blessed rest of my soul.

And Lord, haste the day when my faith shall be sight,
The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;
The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend,
Even so, it is well with my soul.

Horatio Spafford

(click the title of this piece above if you don’t know the history)

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

What an eventful day (and not in a good way)

Customarily, when the alarm goes off at 5:30, I suddenly have three BC's in the bed with me saying, "Dad!  Wake up and pet us!" and a corollary:  "...and we REALLY need to go out." 

So I get up and stagger to the back door and let them out.  They run around and bark and pee and poop while I fix coffee and do other morning chores.  While it's still cool enough, I join them on the patio for coffee (coffee for me, chewies for them).

This morning, however, I had a lot of work to do, so I let them out as normal.  When I finally got up from the computer to go shower and change prior to heading for the office, I glanced out (as I always do) at them.  They were sitting there looking at me and the gate, as usual, was closed.

As I arrived at the bathroom to start my get-ready process (my bathroom is on the back side of the house), I heard a lot of barking.  This usually means, "A marauding squirrel!"  or "Look!  A bird!".  I didn't pay any attention.

I came back to the back door to let them in---and the gate was open and Lucy and Ethel were nowhere to be found.  Bessie was standing at the back door, frantic.  Let her in, then went off in search of the others. 

Long story short:  3 hours of driving around frantically, panic setting in (I live in Houston; dogs don't last on the major streets here), I realize that their tags have my old cell phone number (employer changed it in February); even if somebody found the dogs, they couldn't call me.

I called the old cell phone number and got this nice lady; I introduced myself to her and she said, "Are you missing some dogs? I've gotten a call on them, let me look at my caller ID and you can call them."  So she did and I did.

These two nice ladies, dog rescuers, saw my dogs running across the major intersection near my house.  The ladies stopped and called and Lucy and Ethel came right over.  They called the number on the tags, then put the dogs in the back of their Lexus and were contemplating their next move when I called them.

Morals of the story:

  • Always have the numbers on the tags up to date.  (They're chipped, too, but still...).
  • There is still good in the world.  Nice ladies, to stop traffic in the busy intersection while they got the dogs out of harm's way.
  • I'm going to call Reliant Energy and we are going to have a "disCUSSion" about their meter reader.
  • Bessie has earned her stripes.  The others departed and she stayed home.  This the second time she's done that.  She's been my rescue pup and I've been trying to adopt her out.  No more.  She's home.  I don't know what the HOA is going to say, but we'll work it out.

and I'm really, really glad to have my dogs back.  I don't ever want to go through that again.

Thank you, nice ladies who rescued my dogs, and nice lady who has my old cell phone number.  I offered a reward to each; they declined.  I offered a dozen red roses each; they declined.  I was so obviously relieved, as I turned to leave I heard one say to the other, “Aww, that worked out nicely!” 

All I can say is, “Thank you, ladies”.

Lucy

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Bessie:

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Monday, March 29, 2010

Elite 8, 2010

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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Where have all the cowboys gone?

When I started thinking about moving back to Houston, I immediately consulted the Houston City-Data board.  City-Data gives all kinds of information on different places; cost of living, statistics, weather patterns, etc.  They also have forums for every location in the country.  The forums are a kind of internet “information, please” deal.  People talk about their city, the good, the bad, and the ugly.  There are always people from other areas relocating to the city, and asking questions of the locals.  Since I love being a tour guide….

I hadn’t intended on staying on the forum, but it kind of grows on you and, like every other internet community, once you learn the different personalities of the “regulars”, it gets to be fun.  Our forum has one individual who takes these wonderful walking tours and posts great pictures of the city; we have everything from doctors and lawyers to realtors to cops to street thugs.

Tonight’s forum had a question from some Floridians moving to Texas; I responded to their post.  I hadn’t intended to write an opus, but got started and, well, those who know me from Razorback forums know how that goes with me.  So, since I’ve been stumped for a blog topic, I decided, “Why not?” 

Their question: 

We're relocating for work from overdeveloped Boca Raton, Florida and really want to find a friendly western town, cowboy boots and horses and all. Can we find this in Conroe or surrounding areas?

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My answer: 

(hint: look at a map of Texas while reading this post)

Really, you're going to need to be pretty far out of Conroe to get out to the actual "country". Conroe is effectively a big, semi-distant suburb of Houston.


As an example (I'm not as familiar with the northern areas as I am the western ones), going west on IH-10, you've got to get past Columbus (an hour and a half from my house in West Houston, through some of the densest traffic in North America) to actually get into "horse country". Between Columbus and Katy USED to be, say 20 years ago, but at this point, Brookshire and Sealy are already "gone", the development real estate signs are out everywhere.

My sister and her husband have a place at Flatonia (Flatonia is almost exactly halfway between downtown Houston and downtown San Antonio), 96 miles from Houston.


When they were looking for their place, they sounded exactly like you ("We're sick of Houston! But we like the money we get from our excellent jobs!") "Acreage" places were more expensive every mile closer to Houston they got. Everybody wants "5 acres out in the country." Well, 5 acres is not very much---that's still a subdivision. Country acreage gets into 50 acre tracts (pretty much minimum). When you're talking $1,000 an acre, okeydokey. When you're talking $50,000 an acre with a minimum of 50 acres.........


The aptly-named Centerville is exactly halfway between downtown Houston and downtown Dallas. You could probably get something decent in that area. Since you're going to commute to Conroe, that's not "terrible". Huntsville can get a bit trafficky at rush hour, and Willis (look on a map) is where the "Houston" traffic finally peters out....TODAY. In 10 years, Willis will be completely engulfed.


The Texas you're imagining is vanishing. It kind of petered out in the 60's. Development really took off in the 80's and 90's. When I was a kid in high school in San Antonio in the 70's, "West" Houston was IH-10 at Gessner Rd. and Highway 6 was known as "Jackrabbit Road". "North" Houston ended up around the new Intercontinental Airport and you drove through the woods a ways to get to the small town of Conroe. San Antonio stopped, you drove through countryside to the small town of New Braunfels, then more countryside to San Marcos, then more countryside to Austin. In north Austin, when you got to US 290, that was it until you got to the small town of Round Rock (countryside between Austin and Round Rock), then more country to Georgetown, then more country to Belton, etc.

 
Today, "Houston" extends to Willis on the north and Sealy on the west. IH 35 is one long, continuous suburb from San Antonio to Waco, punctuated by downtown Austin. Round Rock, Georgetown, all suburbs. Dallas and Ft. Worth, meanwhile, having finally grown together and merged with over 200 other cities into "the Metroplex", are trying desperately to reach Oklahoma--and will succeed in that, in my opinion, in my lifetime.


This part of Texas is now growing into one big urban "thing". In fact, Governor Perry's office (I'm not a fan; they stole the idea and videos from a private businessman from Ft. Worth who produced them) is marketing it currently as "one thing": the "Texaplex" (Dallas/Ft. Worth, Houston, San Antonio, Austin, with Waco, Huntsville, and College Station thrown in) (see videos below, they are fascinating). It has almost exact Florida counterparts: "Orlampa" (Tampa/St. Pete/Orlando) and "Florabama" (the entire Florida Panhandle). Of course, there is also the entire south Florida coast that we all refer to as "Miami" that goes from Palm Beach to Homestead.

 
The modern "cowboy" will most likely be driving his F-350, Silverado 3500HD, or Ram 3500 diesel dually. He'll wear a starched white button down oxford shirt, jeans, boots, and use an Excel Spreadsheet on his laptop (conveniently anchored to the fold-down armrest in his leather upholstered, late-model truck) to keep track of his herd (not to mention the production from his wells or his cotton crop). He'll use his cell phone to keep up with the antics of Bucky Junior at A&M, Texas, or Baylor while uplinking his production reports via air card. He'll drive to a modern, suburban-style house (admittedly pretty big), where his Suburban-driving wife will be organizing a party via facebook with her sorority sisters or church group (unless she's a lawyer with a degree from SMU, working from home).

 
Mostly, they keep and ride horses for fun.


Not trying to rain on your parade, but the "real Texas" that people talk about was always part myth anyway.

These days, you have to look pretty hard to find it.

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The Texaplex videos:

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Saturday, January 30, 2010

An Exercise in Circumlocution…

In the preceding post, I attempted (hopefully with a bit of humor) to utilize every buzzword I had accumulated over the past few months.

I had inspiration for this type of effort early-on.  My Dad was sitting around work one day (man, they lived in a different universe than we do…) and came up with a little essay, which he presented to me upon my departure for Baylor.  Fortunately, I thought  it funny enough to stick it in a photo album.  It’s one of those old sticky page photo albums, so now the paper’s irrevocably attached (apparently at the molecular level) to the book.  Nevertheless, I still have the document.

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AN EXERCISE IN CIRCUMLOCUTION FOR STUDENTS OF SECONDARY SCHOOLS

by Maurice Jones

     To obtain an education, whether in pursuit of your vocation or a pleasant avocation, or for your personal gratification there is required a degree of determination (and some professorial exhortation) to overcome the strong temptation to go into hibernation or indulge in abstract meditation during a student recitation or a professor’s dull narration.

     Despite a student’s prognostication that he will suffer from prostration or, at the least, regurgitation if he is forced into participation, it isn’t likely that all of his expostulation will force the administration to enter into negotiation concerning the assignation of a daily compilation of enlightening information.

     I say to you without equivocation that if your are planning matriculation, you should request elucidation on all subjects under consideration and refuse all invitations to indulge in excessive fraternization that would result in vacillation.

     If you will always practice excogitation your compensation at the termination of this period of melioration will be acclamation by your paternal relation and receipt of documentation which attests to your graduation.

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Although everyone knows I'm addicted to my computer, I do not want to read books on it. One of my favourite books/short stories ever is "A Christmas Carol"; I've had many copies over the years, usually either lending them and not getting them back or just plain losing them. When I moved to Houston, I think my last copy went to the Malvern Library in one of the *47* cartons of books I gave them for their sale.

In any event, this year I needed to read it again and looked it up on the innerwebs. It's public domain, so there are various versions of it. I tried reading it online but finally wound up just printing the thing to read in my hand.

Somehow, a book is just comforting. I like books. I like the way they look; I like the way they feel; I like the way they smell. If it's an old, used book, I like the way it falls open to the previous owner's favourite part. If it's an old library book, it has that "library" smell, which is a comfort smell to me because of all the time I've spent in the library.   

I just like books.

In some ways, I feel sorry for the current crop of kiddos.  They might use books, but they use all the various search engines to find their subject matter.  When I was in school (to which I walked 5 miles in the snow…), one had to be organized to write a paper.  You had to spend hours in the library at the card catalogue, sifting through the thousands of cards to find the 2 or 3 books that had the information you needed, then go to that section of the library and find the books---and READ them (or at least skim them).  I’m not saying that way was better (you can have my computer when you pry my cold dead fingers off the keyboard), and I love Google, but there is something to be said for the skill needed to organize a manual search.  

As print media gives way to the inexorable force of the electron, certain things are being lost---and this loss is NOT an improvement.  Newspapers were the chronicles of mankind from the 17th century to the 21st.  Many editions are still available, and it’s fascinating to look at The Times archives and read about the ongoing difficulties in the Colonies, or India, or about something Disraeli or Churchill said yesterday.  These moldy old papers are still hanging around. 

I have a small brown paper bag on the bookshelf in my Den.  It contains all the letters my Dad wrote home to his parents and sisters during World War II (In another area, I have at least most of the letters he wrote Mother).  The letters are on that peculiar onionskin GI paper, and censored by government censors.  Now, my email output is about that much PER DAY, but it’s ephemeral---it doesn’t really record anything; it’s not an archive of thought.  It consists of blurbs, dribs, and drabs---little shots of thought here and there.  We’re losing letters altogether (when is the last time you took pen and paper and wrote one?).

All this electronic stuff is fantastic---right up until the power goes out.

 

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If, for the next generation, Apple builds a bigger ipad, will it be a maxi-pad?

Sunday, January 24, 2010

Buzzing Around

 

At work, we’re in a huge state of transition; the company for which I’ve worked for the last 6 months lost their contract, effective 1-31-10; the new company was kind enough to offer me a job with them (same office, same everything, but February 1 I’ll be employed by a different company).  We’ve been working like demons to make sure the transition is as “seamless” as possible, but this is a whole big bunch like a divorce:  everybody’s trying to be very nice and very professional, but the old company doesn’t like it one bit and the new company is anxious to get started, with “us kids” (my staff and me) in the middle. 

We’re ripping out the old office stuff and installing new; it’s got to be coordinated like D-Day; all the old ties need to be dissolved and all the new established---not just furniture and equipment (that’s fairly easy), but mapping thousands of computer fields, transitioning to completely different vendors, computer software, trying to fit square pegs into round holes, coordinating training and “onboarding” for staff, while trying to carry on with “normal” business.  I’m not solely responsible for all of this, not by a long shot, but I am involved in every one of the decisions; I’m a guest on every one of the 10,000 conference calls; I have to try to explain to the staff where we’re going and how we’re going to do it so they can push it out to the public….I’ve been getting home around 8 o’clock every night, eating something, and crashing.

 

In the process, I’ve learnt many new and fun buzzerswith which you can both baffle and amuse your little friends!

Granular”---imagine yourself on a beautiful beach; the white sand, the blue sky….so when you look at the beach, are you seeing one thing (the beach) or 10,000,000,000,000,000 things (each individual grain of sand)?  If you’re seeing all the granules, you’re getting “granular”.  So to “get granular” (short for “getting down to the granular level”, which is also used and technically correct while already being a bit passé) with regard to work means you are examining a thing at the microscopic, or lowest possible, level.  We’ve been “granular” a lot these last two weeks.  Conversely, you can stop someone cold by saying, “I’m not trying to get that granular here; I’m looking at the Big Picture.”  (It is still acceptable to look at the Big Picture).

Deliverables”---I owe you an Excel Spreadsheet, or some data, or a return phone call regarding a question you asked that I can’t answer.  I have a “Deliverable” for you.  (Question asked often this week by all:  “Let’s see, do I have any Deliverables for you?”).

Onboarding” (and its kinda/sorta counterpart, “reverse takeover”).  We are “onboarding” with the new company, while experiencing a “reverse takeover” with the old one.  In order to onboard correctly, we must remember to “ramp up” our knowledge base while “retrofitting” those things that do work but must be made to fit in with the new order.

Process Map”---this is a “flowchart” with a swanky new moniker!  I’ve been designing Process Maps for YEARS and didn’t even know!

Throw (insert name here) under the bus…”---if someone has to be thrown under the bus, hope it’s not you!  This is a new expression for a time-honored human practice:  scapegoating!  “Can you believe Fred just threw Barbara under the bus during that conference call???"  “Now look, I don’t want to throw old Fred under the bus here, but it WAS his department’s failure that caused this fiasco….”  “Barbara is trying to throw me under the bus on this thing, and I don’t like it even a little bit!”

It is what it is”---ok, guilty as charged on this one, I use it 100 times a day.  “We can’t change that, it is what it is.”

Circle back”---this means, “get back with” or “meet again to discuss this issue after we’ve both had a chance to check on the things we need to find out”.  “Janet, let’s circle back on Thursday, between “Calls” (short for “Conference Call”), on this issue, ok?  Now, will you need to circle back with Pierre before you circle back with me?”

And, not exactly a buzzword, but dreaded words for everyone in business in this era of conference calls taking up most of the day (to the point where you can’t get to your email!):  “(beep) Who just joined?”  We have conference calls with 20 people in 4 time zones; most just “mute out”, that is to say, mute their microphones and go on about whatever it is they’re doing; this is exceptionally annoying when someone has asked a complicated, 5-minute question and then said, “…isn’t that right, Janet?” and Janet, who is responsible for the answer but has been doing email, says, “I’m sorry, could you repeat the question?”

Honestly, at the end of the day, in order to break through the clutter and make it “pop”, I pick the low-hanging fruit by synergistically utilizing our human assets and integrating our Best Practices into the new paradigm, while not neglecting our Core Competencies. I have to herd cats in a seamless, integrated fashion while simultaneously ensuring that mission-critical, client-focused events stay on track and are timeline-compliant going forward. In order to accomplish this fast-track infrastructure retrofit, while ensuring that the analytics, metrics and logistics are taken together in a holistic, organic manner, great care must be exercised to avoid silo mentality and ensure granular-level co-opetition between ourselves and our business partners, being ever-mindful of the long tail that, if ignored, can have a catastrophic effect on the enterprise long-term. 

In other words, I’m basting the turkey and boiling the ocean here; I don’t have time to worry about a damn blog entry!   ;-)

(Think I’ll take a little bow on those last two paragraphs; I worked hard on them and they DO actually describe reality for me right now).

For those iphone users:  there’s an app for that.

 

bickits and honey

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Alas, Greycliff

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The Original Giovanni

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Photos by my cousin Cathy Fink, 1-17-2010

Monday, January 11, 2010

UPDATE!

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There was ONE survivor (besides the people) from the Greycliff fire!

The Original Giovanni remains on its wall, where it always was!  Charred, needs refinishing, shades and bulbs gone, but the Giovanni remains.

The living room walls (made of rock) collapsed with the heat, as did several of the rock columns.  There are no other contents remaining, and as of this writing (1/11/10) the fire is still burning.  The tarpaper roof (while now on the floor) is still on fire, and will be for several days, even weeks.  Nothing else remains. 

I told them they’d need to name the new house the Greycliff Phoenix, rising from the ashes.  She’s going to build it back on the same plan, with some modifications---and across the road, rather than on the old site.  When the new house is finished, the Giovanni will take its place as a reminder of the past, in the new house that looks to the future.

Saturday, January 9, 2010

The Hits Just Keep on Happening---Earth, Wind, and Fire, or, How Punkin Saved the Day

Friday was a tough day for my family (see the blog post immediately prior to this one).  More on that later.  Dad was supposed to go home with his sister, Aunt Shorty, to Greycliff for an extended vacation/clear-the-head session.  Unfortunately, Aunt Shorty and her family couldn’t get out of their driveway.  Too much ice.

Many of my friends know my Aunt Shorty (Arline Peeler-Fink).  She’s a die-hard fan of the Arkansas Razorbacks (took me to my first game), went to WebHogs tailgates and football games with me for years, and is just generally a great friend, in addition to being a relative.

In 1958, Aunt Shorty and her husband, Cal Peeler, were on Dyess AFB in Abilene, Texas.  Knowing they were about to retire, they cast about to decide where to go and what to do.  A friend of theirs in the Army Corps of Engineers told them, “Hey, y’all ought to go to Northwest Arkansas, we’re about to put in a big lake up there.”  They went up the treacherous, rural highways and looked the place over; there were tiny towns nearby like Rogers, Bentonville (there was a dime store there called “Walton’s 5 & 10”), and Springdale.  The closest town of any size was the college town, Fayetteville, home of the University of Arkansas.

They bought their land and started walking it.  On it, overlooking the (future Beaver) Lake, they found a large cliff of grey rock.  They had an architect draw house plans for this site; they had in mind a Frank Lloyd Wright, mid-century modern style home for the spectacular setting.  I remember them at our dining room table in Dallas when I was six; they were proudly showing Mom and Dad the plans for their spectacular new home.

They retired from the USAF and moved to a rental in Fayetteville.  Cal returned to college, got his advanced degrees, and became a professor at the University (they say his math classes were pretty tough).  Meanwhile, Shorty got a job as a secretary at the VA Hospital, working for the Chief of Surgery, Bill Fink.  [The Peelers and the Finks became fast friends, and remained so (first Kay Fink, then Cal Peeler, died, and Arline and Bill wound up together for almost 20 years). ]

There was a “shotgun shack” on the property; it had been a farmhouse a hundred years before, but was mostly a hunting camp.  They fixed the shack up and lived in it on the weekends while they cleared timber, put in roads, and mostly picked up rocks.  Rocks, you know, are part of the EARTH.

They picked up rocks in the boiling heat of summer.  They picked up rocks in the freezing cold of winter.  They picked up rocks in the rain.  They picked up rocks with flashlights.  They picked up rocks, then they picked up more rocks, then (just for fun, when they had nothing else to do) they picked up rocks.  They had rock pick up parties.  They drafted young nephews to help pick up rocks.  There were lots of rocks.  Rocks, rocks, rocks. 

They used the rocks to build the house.  Every exterior wall, several interior walls, the balcony half-wall, the massive fireplace---all rocks, picked up by hand by them, their friends, and family.  Individuals had individual rocks identified (“I picked up that one!”). 

The house was a triumph of the Wright philosophy.  Flat roofed, it looked as though it were an extension of the hillside, part of the cliff.  You drove up the steep rock driveway and suddenly encountered…a carport??  Walking along the rock (ahem) walkway by the carport, you came into a lovely open-air lanai.  Unexpectedly, the lanai was paved with Florentine marble!  They had a connection for marble, and used bits and pieces of marble left over from other jobs to form a beautiful floor that looked like nothing so much as a Mondrian painting.

That floor flowed through the beautifully carved front door into the entry hall and dining room.  The dining room (featuring a beautiful teak table, tall white upholstered chairs, matching teak breakfront full of beautiful American Brilliant Cut glass, sterling silver, and other nice things.  One wall was glass, overlooking the courtyard.  The other was a half-wall (with a solid middle, the back of the massive fireplace) made of rocks.  A stroll over to the rock half-wall revealed a two story living room, hanging off the cliff, with twin staircases (rock) leading down from the dining room into the living room; the outer wall was a wall of windows overlooking the lake. 

To the left along the balcony was the kitchen, den, an extra bedroom, and a deck.  To the right was a master bedroom, huge bathroom with marble five foot by four foot roman soaking tub, shower stall, and his-and-hers walk-in closets—and another large deck.

DSC_0013d On the back of the fireplace, on the rock wall, there hung a fascinating piece.  I’m going to try to try to tell the story, but I reserve the right to re-tell if I get the details wrong. 

The story:  a friend of theirs in St. Louis, named John, got this old sconce off the wall of a hotel that was being demolished.  He thought of it for this spot, and brought it to them.  They thought, “Mmmm, kay”, but liked it and hung it anyway—what else to put there and why the hell not?  Later, another friend came to visit and oooohed and aaahhhhed and generally fawned over the piece.  “What is it?  It’s fabulous!  What a work of art!”  “Why,” Cal responded with characteristically totally straight face, “Don’t you know?  That’s an original GIOVANNI!”  (Cal was totally serious; everybody else was trying desperately not to howl).  The friend bought it hook, line, and sinker, and the original GIOVANNI! had a permanent home.  Note rocks behind it.  (For those who don’t know, Giovanni is “John” in Italian…).

DSC_0012There were things wrong, of course.  The builder got the kitchen wall 2 feet  short---in other words, the kitchen was two feet smaller than was planned.  It was always a tight fit.  The fountain that was planned for the lanai never materialized until just a few years ago.  The two decks proved impractical, and were enclosed as extra rooms. 

Mainly, though, there was the issue of the roof. 

Flat roofs are usually “built up” roofs; that is, they are made of layer after layer of tarpaper, literally “built up” to form a (hopefully) impenetrable barrier (theirs never was, it leaked constantly).  Theirs was covered with…rocks.  Lots and lots of gray rocks, picked up by hand.  Rocks, rocks, rocks.  Rocks which helped give the illusion that the house grew out of the cliff.  Pure Wright.

Rocks are heavy.  If you’re going to put rocks on the roof, you’d better make sure it’s braced properly.  Their architect and builder assured them it was.  It wasn’t.

One day, Aunt Shorty arrived on the jobsite to discover that her beautiful living room with the expansive view---had a pole in the middle of it.  The pole held up the sagging roof.  She screamed.  She cried.  She “spoke sternly”.  She threatened.  She pleaded.  They apologized, then encased the pole in the same rocks.  She named it her “Maypole”, and it bugged the hell out of her every time she saw it.

They moved in in 1967. 

Everybody they knew came to visit.  The joke was, if you wanted to go see the Peelers, you needed to make a reservation at the Hotel Peeler.  They boated.  They fished.  They ate the fish they caught, expertly grilled, fried, or otherwise prepared.  They hauled stuff around in their great old truck, a yellow Dodge named “The Yellow Peril.”  They had everybody they knew as houseguests.

Shorty loved every minute of it.  She was in her element as hostess; it’s her natural role in life.  Anybody who’s ever attended one of her parties, or been a guest in her home, knows this to be true.

Ultimately, the roof leaked and sagged enough over the years that they had a “normal” roof of trusses, plywood sheeting, regular shingles, etc, built right on top of the old built-up roof.  It no longer leaked.  The boring beetles got to the beautiful cedar siding, and the house was re-sided with regular siding.  No longer “Wright”, but still a beautiful home.

Cal died.  Arline married “Pop”.  They split time between Greycliff and Pop’s house in Fayetteville.  When Pop passed away last year, Aunt Shorty moved back to Greycliff to live out her life overlooking the lake she loves.

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Pop in the den at Greycliff; note rocks

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This morning (coldest on record), Aunt Shorty (now 91) was pleased to welcome her son Jack for coffee.  I imagine they were discussing the weather and the fact that Jack had had to put a space heater under the pipes under Shorty’s bedroom, trying to keep them from freezing, and how they would be glad to welcome my Dad. 

Dad was supposed to go home from Mom’s funeral with them yesterday, but there was too much ice on their road and they reluctantly decided they couldn’t make it.  Accordingly, Dad came home with us last night on the Gulfstream and came home with me to Houston today.  We all figured, the ice will be melted by Tuesday and I can pop him on a plane to Tulsa Tuesday morning; he’ll be at Greycliff before lunch.

So Shorty and Jack were sitting there at the breakfast table.  The door to the dining room was closed (kept drafts to a minimum).  Punkin, the miniature Pinscher, began to act strangely.  She jumped up and down, barked, ran to the dining room door, barked some more, ran around, barked, and generally panicked.  Shorty tried to calm her down but she refused to be calm.  Jack got up and went to the dining room door, opened it, and said, “Mother, the house is full of smoke.  Get the dog and let’s go.”

Greycliff burned to the ground today, January 9, 2010.

Here’s a link to the newspaper photo.

The space heater must have blown over in the WIND, contacted some insulation, which caught FIRE.  The fire spread to the attic, the attic which had been dry for many years, the attic whose floor was a built-up roof of layer after layer of old tarpaper.  Once the fire touch that tarpaper, it was only a matter of events taking their course.

Three fire departments responded; unfortunately, one of the fire trucks slipped on the still-slick, steep road and injured a firefighter; our family is praying for his speedy recovery.  There just wasn’t much for them to do.

Aunt Shorty is the owner of acres and acres fronting Beaver Lake, a Lexus, a Prius, a sweat suit, a pair of tennis shoes, a miniature pinscher, a smoking, charred pile of rocks on top of cracked, ruined Florentine marble, an excellent insurance policy---and her life, for which we are all intensely grateful.

Punkin, already “somewhat” pampered, will (as far as I’m concerned) dine on steak the rest of her doggy life.  Any puddles, poopies, hair, barking, or any other doggy foibles are hereby and permanently forgiven and forgotten. 

I called Aunt Shorty today and told her that my house was hers as long as she wanted.  Her response:  “Oh, honey, I’ve got a ton of houses.  All of my children and grandchildren want me to come live with them.  All of the Fink kids and grandkids want me to come live with them.  I guess now I’ll have to add your house to the list, but I just need a quick place to stay while I rebuild Greycliff!”  I told her that was a good thing; now she’ll have somebody to boss around.

We’re just glad to still have our Shorty.  I guess this means I’ve got to go to Rogers…and pick up some rocks.  

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Dad, at Greycliff, with the heroine of the day

 

P. S.---Why do I not have a picture of Shorty at Greycliff? 

Greycliff was exceedingly difficult to photograph.  As I said, a triumph of Wright architecture, it was difficult to get a photo of anything except the carport.  The rest of the house hung off the cliff, or jutted out of it.  The best shot was from the lake, but I never got any of those.  The rest burned in the fire, along with all of our family photos (other than the ones I now have), part of Gramp’s fabulous cut glass collection, Arline and Cal’s extensive Hummel collection, the Haviland china, the flag that was on Cal’s coffin, dogtags, “wings”, 10,000 books, a huge collection of wonderful vinyl records, all those wonderful recipes and cookbooks….

Now, getting a picture of the Short One in her Natural Habitat---or out of it---is multiple levels of difficulty harder.  She does NOT like to have her photo made.  I’ll keep looking, but I promise nothing.

As Shorty’s daughter in law told her today:  “New year, new house, new woman!”

GO, SHORTY, GO!  I hope you live to be 130.

Monday, January 4, 2010

I’ll always love you Mom

 

 

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Martha Virginia Tarkington Jones

August 6, 1926 – January 4, 2010

 

Martha Virginia Tarkington Jones, 83, died Monday, January 4, 2010 in San Antonio, Texas. Born in Malvern, Arkansas to Roy Brooks Tarkington and Audie Virginia Brown Tarkington, she was raised in Malvern and Prescott. In 1943, she married Maurice Eugene Jones (son of Jester and Stella Jones of Malvern) following a whirlwind courtship. “And they said it wouldn’t last.”

Following World War II, the couple moved to Dallas, Texas, where Martha became an operator for Southwestern Bell Telephone Company; there, she made friends with whom she was close for the remainder of her life. She worked for Southwestern Bell until the birth of her third child, at which time she became a full-time homemaker. Following moves to Corpus Christi, Texas and Ft. Worth, Texas, the family moved to San Antonio, Texas, where she returned to work as a school nurse at Montgomery Elementary School.

After one more move (to Tulsa, Oklahoma), Martha and Maurice retired and returned to Malvern, where they enjoyed retirement for 25 years before moving once again to San Antonio to be near their children.

Preceded in death by her oldest daughter, Ted Laneca Jones of Malvern, she is survived by her husband of 67 years, Maurice Jones of San Antonio, Texas; her son, Nick-Alan Tarkington Jones of Houston, Texas; her daughter, Marla Jones Rhodes, son-in-law Philip Rhodes, and two grandchildren, Rachel Virginia Smith and David Mark Smith, all of Boerne, Texas, as well as many friends and relatives.

Whether sculpting and painting in her ceramics studio, relaxing on the boat on Lake DeGray, collecting everything from seashells to figurines, playing with her dogs, or enjoying Christmas on the beach at Navarre Beach, Florida, Martha always exhibited a zest for life, a love of fun, dancing, and parties, and fierce love of and loyalty to her family. Her wit and joi de vivre will be missed by all who knew her. She truly was a “Renaissance Woman”.

Her funeral will be held at First Baptist Church, Malvern, under direction of J. A. Funk Funeral Home, on Friday, January 8, at 1:00 pm; Interment to follow at Shadowlawn Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to the American Heart Association, the American Cancer Society, or the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (ASPCA).

Online condolences may be made via jafunkfuneralhome.com

 

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O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?


I AM the resurrection and the life, saith the Lord: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: and whosoever liveth and believeth in me, shall never die.

I know that my redeemer liveth, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth: and though this body be destroyed, yet shall I see God: whom I shall see for myself, and mine eyes shall behold, and not as a stranger.
We brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. The LORD gave, and the LORD hath taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Happy Birthday to the Greatest Guy I Know

He was born during the Roaring 20’s, the decade of flappers, jazz, and Al Jolson.  Cool Cal Coolidge was in the White House; the Model T was at the height of success. That year, you could actually---for the first time---listen to a broadcast of the only post-season football game, live from the brand-spanking-new Rose Bowl stadium, on the radio.  Movies were silent, although there had been a test-showing of a new technology, “sound-on-film”, in New York City that year .  Alan Shepard, Chuck Yeager, Henry Kissinger, and Bob Barker all made their appearance within the same year, while Gustav Eiffel (of steel construction fame) made his departure.

Life expectancy for a baby born in the US in 1923:  56.1 years. 

In Arkansas, there existed about 20 miles of paved roadway outside of Little Rock and Hot Springs.  The “Texas Road” was a muddy track through the forest skirting the edge of the hills (it wouldn’t be numbered “US 67” until two years later); if you wanted to go anywhere, you took the train, of course.  Razorback Hogs and black bears still ran wild in the hills, and many people hunted and fished, not for pleasure, but for food.  Neither telephones nor electricity were plentiful, and most doctors had not been to college (but had apprenticed with an older doctor). 

Jester and Stella Jones were at a crossroads in their lives.  They lived in Willow, Arkansas, on a small farm.  Both their families were farmers, although Stella’s brothers had a tendency to “run ‘shine” from time to time.  Jester, being the second oldest of 13 (you had to have big families; you needed help on the farm, and manufacturing them seemed the easiest way; besides, whoever heard of birth control?  …and anyway, you were guaranteed to lose at least a couple along the way due to typhoid, cholera, measles, or some kind of cut or other accident that would lead to death from sepsis), looked around him and didn’t like what he saw.  His brothers all wanted to be farmers; his sisters all married farmers and started making more farmers.  Jester had liked school, so he had studied hard.  When he finished eighth grade (the highest level of education available in Arkansas at the time), the teacher offered him an unpaid position as his assistant.  The teacher taught Jester out of his own books.  Three years later, the teacher left and Jester assumed his position.

So, there they were, the young couple with two girls and a boy, and here came another boy baby.  Teaching school and farming part time were not getting the job done financially, and really, Jester had reached the end of his rope.  They decided to move to the “big city”; the nearest one of those, a buggy ride away, was the county seat:  Malvern.  Jester secured a position as “Assistant Teller” at Bank of Malvern (the oldest chartered state bank in Arkansas).  He worked for the Bank of Malvern for the next 59 years.

The family moved into a house on Clardy Street, and that was where that baby boy spent his childhood, chasing after (and being chased by) his older brother and sisters. 

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The oldest, Virginia, held sway as “assistant Mother”, and one imagines she could probably be pretty commanding as an older sister (she certainly was as an adult).  She desired to be a “great lady” in the grand old southern tradition---and succeeded.  Her quiet voice was, till the day she died, instantly obeyed by her entire family.  She was sweet, wonderful, and everybody loved her---but you really didn’t want to make her mad.

The next eldest, Arline, has yet to be tamed, although it’s rumored she began to cut back a bit when she passed 90 last year (this blog does not believe rumors).  Arline got to 4’9 and stopped growing, earning her the (then unwanted) nicknames “Stumpy” and “Shorty”.  She couldn’t (and can’t) help it if she liked (and still likes) to have fun instead of sitting around all day being religious.  Like all her siblings, she feels that, if God didn’t want people to drive fast, He wouldn’t have put accelerators in cars with 400 horsepower. 

The oldest son, Houston, was a handsome devil---and the “handsome” part enabled the “devil” part.  Houston lived 66 years on this earth, and during those 66 years he ate what he wanted, drank what he wanted, smoked what he wanted, and “dated” what he wanted.  He liked his motorcycles, cars, and airplanes like he liked his women:  fast and flashy.  He lived his life his way, on his terms.  In short:  he lived fast, died young, and left a good looking corpse.

The baby, Maurice, was a bit of a “decepticon”, and a combination of all the siblings.  His sweet looks could mask the desire to play pranks, roam all over the countryside, get into trouble, get out of trouble, fight, play football, box, drive fast, and get into mischief.  At age 13, he wanted to go see his Aunt Lois and Uncle Joe (by then living in Atlanta, Texas), so he hitchhiked down muddy, dusty US 67 to do so---without bothering to tell his parents.

He had many adventures:  he was hit by a car on his bicycle; he got to hear President Roosevelt give a speech under a great oak tree on the lawn of a local church (they paved the road from Hot Springs to Malvern for the occasion, so the President’s Packard wouldn’t have to jounce him over the dirt track; the Pres had been to Hot Springs for a dip in the waters).  His boxing career came to an abrupt end following a broken nose. 

He was always crazy about airplanes, and took flying lessons at the local “airport”.  As the war clouds gathered, he graduated from high school and stuck out for Nashville, Tennessee for aircraft school.  He then went to San Diego, where he worked in an aircraft factory, learning how the things were made.  He lived there with his brother, Houston, who was doing the same thing.

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He returned to Malvern and accidentally met the woman with whom he was to spend the next 68 years, and with whom he’d have three children.  After knowing each other two weeks, they eloped (I’ve told that story elsewhere on here) and settled into married life—such as it was. 

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001 080 Dad went off to war with the rest of his generation, serving in the China-Burma-India campaign.  The Allies were flying routes across the Himalayas to keep the Chinese and Americans supplied, as they fought the Japanese on that front.  In order to navigate (still not easy today) over the Himalayas in DC-3’s and DC-4’s, a series of radio stations were installed.  By homing in on the radio stations, a plane could navigate the treacherous routes (while also trying to avoid the enemy).  Dad had one of the radio stations.  He doesn’t talk much about the war; many of his generation do, but just as many don’t.

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As the war wound down, Dad received an early discharge:  his daughter, my older sister Ted, was gravely ill and he made it home in time to meet her---and bury her.  The emotional toll exacted on them was severe; they were afraid to try for another child for another 10 years.  In the meantime, they moved to Dallas, where Dad went to work in the aircraft industry, while remaining in the “new” USAF. 

Korea erupted, and Dad got 48 hours’ notice:  report to Greenville, SC or else.  He and Mother survived throwing everything they owned into their 1948 Buick (still their favourite car ever) and driving insanely from Dallas to South Carolina (no freeways…).  At one point during the trip, Dad woke up as Mother was pulling into a gas station.  “Are we out of gas already?”  “No, I woke up doing 90 mph on the shoulder and decided you needed to drive.”  They made it ok.

IMG_0004ca They moved back to Dallas after the Korean Conflict, and resumed their former lives.  I’ve always said they were stupid:  they had a new baby, a new car, and a new puppy simultaneously.  Talk about guts.  Talk about no cash.  Dad had a scooter he rode to work (and occasionally had a passenger…).

Dad exited the USAF and was out of a job.  He took 3 part-time jobs to feed his family:  Mom had difficulty after my younger sister’s birth and couldn’t return to work; her mother had moved in with them, and of course he had the two kids and assorted dogs, birds, etc.  An old boss of his called and offered an interview in Corpus Christi, Texas.  Dad took ME (way cool!!!!) and we drove down US 77 (no freeways) to Corpus from Dallas.  In LaGrange, a lady ran a red light and Dad plowed into her; there was only one injury:  I was asleep in the back of the station wagon and slid forward and bumped my head.  I came up out of the back in my usual calm and serene demeanor (ok, had I known any cuss words at age 6, I’d’ve been cussing like a sailor).  I sat in the car, looking (for the first time) at the Gulf of Mexico while Dad interviewed at the Naval Air Station.  He got the job and we went back to Dallas, packed, and moved to Corpus Christi. 

What a nightmare that move was for Dad.  He had 2 weeks.  He had to pack everything (no “relo” packages then).  He had to take a trailer full of household goods to Malvern, to store at his folks’.  He had to borrow money from his Dad, plus cash a life insurance policy in order to have the money to have the movers move us.  Mother was still in bad shape; he took the twin mattress off my bed and put it in the back of the station wagon (having driven HIS car to Corpus and ridden the train back); in short, we loaded up the (wagon) and moved to “Beverly”. 

Two years later, things were much better; he was making good money, they loved the beach (I hated it), they had a great home in a lovely neighborhood---and the same guy who hired him for Corpus, now in Ft. Worth, called.  Two weeks later, we were living in Ft. Worth, Dad having once again packed up all the junk, the kids, the dogs, the grandmother, and Mother.  Dad pretty much hated his new job, but we were all happier there, so he had some comfort.

But then, as now, RIF’s (Reduction In Force) occur.  Once again, he had to go find work (at least this time, the government was in all-out mode; Vietnam was cranking and Dad was in aircraft…).  He had the choice of moving back to Dallas to a job he knew he would hate (and a demotion); he could move to San Antonio, Texas for a promotion; he could move to Albuquerque, NM for a BIG promotion.  He chose the middle route, and moved a very sullen family (Mom moped; I was apoplectic---how DARE he move me away from my friends???  Grannie and Marla were not happy as well).  Things got worse when we pulled up in front of the house he’d rented for us in San Antonio; we had a lovely home in Ft. Worth.  This dump in SA---well, it’s still a dump, I saw it recently.  It was the best he could do with (again) two weeks to get it all done.  We pulled up in front and Mother took one look and said, “Ok, that is a funny joke, now where’s OUR house?”

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They lived in San Antonio (having moved to a much nicer home) 8 years, then Tulsa, then (kids gone, parents gone), they retired and moved back to Malvern, Arkansas.  Dad lasted about a month before getting bored; he built Mother a ceramics shop, still bored, then got a call to do consulting work.  He took that job and had ANOTHER career, one of over 20 years of consulting.  Probably his favourite time in Malvern was spent on the boat; he’s always loved boating, and he finally had the cash and wherewithal to have what he wanted.

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He loved those trips to Florida, too.  We spent several very happy Christmases in Navarre Beach, Florida, trips which he instigated and loved.

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When I moved back to Houston, it was going to be very tough for them to remain in Malvern.  I hadn’t provided THAT much help, but my presence was enough.  Mom had had her stroke, and it was time to move on.  So, Dad once again moved, this time back to San Antonio (at least this time, Nathan packed!).

Throughout it all, Dad has maintained his equilibrium.  He’s been the Rock of Gibraltar for our family, the one to whom we’ve all turned for advice, wisdom, and counsel (not to mention money….;-).  He’s been solid and dependable for all these decades, and if he was ever afraid or worried, he never showed it.  (Mad, that one he showed…just mess with the “fine tuning” on the television set, or take one of his tools and not return it and see where it got you….). 

Even today, he goes every day to see Mother (who truly is in tough shape), maintaining his equilibrium through the shoals of another major surgery (I think the count is:  2 heart attacks, gall bladder, 6 stents, triple bypass), this time aortic aneurysm.  Like John Cameron Swayze’s Timex, he takes a lickin’ and keeps on tickin’.

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Happy 86th birthday, Dad.  I love you and respect you more than you will ever know.